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[badseed1980]

I'm deleting this entry because I'm getting yelled at, and I can understand why. So I'm sorry I said it. It was more a reaction to something else, and not a really valid complaint. I apologize.

Comments

hugs

[erik-j-meyer.livejournal.com]

hope you feel better

I will admit my complete and utter ignorance on what this is about, that in no way invalidates the above sentiments of mine

Re: hugs

[badseed1980.livejournal.com]

Don't give me hugs...I don't deserve 'em right now. I was the stupid one.

Re: hugs

[erik-j-meyer.livejournal.com]

even the silly folks deserve hugs, moreso when they realize their silliness

Re: hugs

[badseed1980.livejournal.com]

But thanks for the offer.

[tigira.livejournal.com]

I hate when I do that. Need some butter to help remove the foot?

[badseed1980.livejournal.com]

No, just somewhere where I can yell the word "FUCK!" as loud as I want and bang my head against a wall, without disturbing anyone.

[tisana.livejournal.com]

There's some fun imagery...
Last Tango in Paris, anyone? (yes, I know, wrong orifice, but it's what popped into my head)

[badseed1980.livejournal.com]

*insert sound of joke whooshing over my head*

Eh?

But, um, I think I can live without hearing it explained!

[tisana.livejournal.com]

I have absolutely no idea what the situation is, but it will be fine. Yes, I know you hate it when people attempt to comfort that way, but I feel it's the case.
Have some herbal tea, a quiet night reading Pratchett while pampering yourself, a good night's sleep, and you'll feel better tomorrow--even if everything isn't exactly better--and you can handle things much better. (jeez, how many times can I use "better," huh?)

If not, just ignore me. It's all good.

[badseed1980.livejournal.com]

Don't comfort me, PLEASE. Thank you for wanting me to feel better, really, but I just don't need comfort now. No one has hurt me. It's the other way around, and that's worse a million times over.

Shameless Anonymous Lurker

[(Anonymous)]

Have you ever felt hurt when maybe you shouldn't have? Have you ever felt an injustice was done to you when from the perspective of the other person they were justified in behaving how they did?

Has someone ever reacted toward you in a way that felt unjust to you and made you feel hurt. . . but at the bottom of it they probably had good reason for reacting the way they did?

Is it possible that you had good reason for doing or saying whatever it was that you said, but because you care about the person you said it to and you allow them some influence over you, you feel bad for saying what you had good reason to say?

I'm not trying to say that this person may have "made" you feel bad --they may not have had intentions of making you feel bad for making them feel bad. They may only have felt bad, and in so expressing that you to. . . .

Likewise I'm not ignoring the fact that you may have said something hurful or spiteful. But often times we say those kinds of things because we feel a genuine hurt. We ought not indulge in spite, but we ought not invalidate the feeling that caused it either.

Is it possible that you said something hurtful to someone because the situation you're in with them is harmful to you? And the act of beating yourself up about it only increases the harm because instead of choosing to see the harm and acting accordingly, you're stuffing it away and choosing to bleeive that you have no right to feel the way you do?

Shameless Anonymous Lurker signing off.