Just sent off a package to the boy. I hope it gets there ok.
I recently decided to say goodbye to the Invisible Girl. This is my term for me when I'm:
* kept out of the loop because people don't care enough to keep me in
* ignored by people when I'm trying to attract them
* treated like the little minor heavenly body that gets eclipsed because it's in the shadow of greater things
* not served drinks at the bar in ManRay despite the fact that I'm waving money (and other things) in the bartender's face
* made to feel insignificant.
I will swear up and down that these things are not just about my attitude. If they were, they'd happen all the time, every time. Instead, they just happen often. I wasn't saying goodbye to a defeatist attitude. I was saying that I would never again allow people to treat me like that. It's not so much about being the center of attention. It's about not being on the fringe so often.
I resolve that from now on:
* Friends who I don't see often will e-mail me to say hi, without my
always e-mailing them first. (This has already started. I have been surprised and gratified.)
* I will be among the first to know what's going on with people I care about, especially if it involves me too.
* New cool people will introduce themselves to me in the hopes of striking up a conversation. (I do this occasionally when I see someone reading a good book or knitting.)
* Someone will ask me to dance or at least flirt with me the next time I go to ManRay, if I just smile at them.
* Someone will call me just to chat. I may initiate this, just to get the ball rolling. It's something I used to do frequently, until I realized no one ever did it to me.
So yeah, I resolve not to be invisible. I resolve to be noticeable. My friend M once told me that I have that "Something" that
tisana was talking about having in her last post, that made men fall for me constantly. I don't seem to have it anymore. Whatever it is, it can help make friends too, and just make you an all-around more attractive human being. And I want it back, gods damn it.