Clover honey &amp; jimson weed

Why do you hate the book?

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I admit I only flipped through it, but I just don't like its tone. There is SOME useful stuff in it, but in general, I think it's kinda self-righteous sounding. I hate Anapol's book even more, though. THAT makes me sick. It's all polyvangelist bullshit.

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I don't know Anapol's book. But you should try reading the entire Ethical Slut--I know Morgan has it somewhere--you may find more in there you find useful, or put in ways you hadn't thought of.

DW also read just a bit and flipped out over one part he couldn't agree with...thing is, it doesn't mean the rest couldn't be worth reading. Reminds me, it's been too long, I need to re-read...

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Yeah, like I said, there ARE some good things in there. I didn't really see anything I found helpful for myself, though. What I liked seemed mostly like common-sense stuff that made me say, "Well, yeah, that's right."

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Morgan has it somewhere

Probably in one of the many boxes labelled "Sex toys," or was it "used condoms?"

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Or on my bookshelf?

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a) Not my idea

b) You had a chance to pack your own stuff. Ya didn't.
It'll be just like Christmas when you move and unpack. :p

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Was making no judments or other statements.

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Okee then...

Speaking of...you may want to get to your mead out of storage.

meadmaker looked at it when we were moving stuff and said it might go bad in the storage area, something like having only a few months left. (Hey, he's into it seriously as a hobby, I believe him.)

Great way to celebrate...something. Anything. Pick a holiday, make one up, and go through the mead. Yeah.

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I know how seriously he is into mead making.

We have had a few chats about it.

The concern that originally was brought up to me was that it was possibly still fermenting, and therefore could explode.

It's been around since 1998, it would have exploded by now.

Anyway, I can't drink as much alcohol as I used, or as much as I might like to be able to, without worse hangovers than before. Too much build of acetylaldehyde due to the same enzyme being used in the liver for both ETOH and the three primary metabolites of Wellbutrin . . .

PSA*
for more info on the drugs you take, see Crazy Meds (http://www.crazymeds.org).

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I agree that Anapol's book is polyvangelistic.

It gave me the idea that jealousy is bad, evil, and must never be allowed to rear its ugly head. EVAR! And that this is an accepted attitude in the poly community (which ain't homogenized . . .).

I realise that is not true.

Took me a few hard lessons to learn that jealousy is normal, and should be looked at and understood.

From A's viewpoint, seems like it should be shot and left for dead.

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From A's viewpoint, seems like it should be shot and left for dead.

Just like those "unenlightened" "selfish" monogamous people.

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I don't believe she was that harsh.

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Well no, but she was pretty clear about seeing monogamy as inherently selfish and polyamory as inherently more evolved.

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32/21 . . . I'm not really that bad, but my history is.

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Yes, you're better than you used to be. :)

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Much has changed, young padawan.

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dbmyrrha.livejournal.com

I didn't think the book was that bad, back when I read it. Poly didn't really work for me in the ways I experimented with it. My partner and I have agreed on the "potential-limited-consensual-occasional-non-monogamy" plan...right now, that means we're stuck with one another. LOL.

Anyway, that aside, I thought I'd post here to say "hi" and say that I have been enjoying your (and your boy's) posts on the LJ communities we're on (there seem to be a few.) I've already extended the invite to him, but I would like to do so to you, too. If you or he (or both) are ever in Washington State or that vicinity, we'd love for you to come over for a drink (coffee, beer, whatever.) or dinner and some conversation. You both seem interesting and insightful. I like that. :)

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Hiya :)

It's always nice when one of the few people on those communities who seems to have their head screwed on right stops by to say hello. :)

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dbmyrrha.livejournal.com

Thanks for the compliment, it is returned.

I'm not one of those people who jumps onto other journals with "add me!" requests, but my personal journal is friends only. If you'd like to add each other, I'm up for that. Your boy is invited too, but I can write him and let him know...

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