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Ok, so a week and a half ago I got the "Watch your ass because you're close to getting fired" letter. Today, my boss called me into the office. I was scared. Then he told me he noticed I was doing a good job this week and was happy. He said, "I don't know if it's because you're afraid you're going to get fired, but it's just the result that's important to me. But if it IS because you're afraid you're going to get fired, just don't start thinking that this means you're off the hook, because I'll be paying attention on Monday." WTF, dude? Then he goes and orders me a new thermos as a "thanks for doing a good job" present because he'd been asking about my thermos, and I said it was kind of falling apart and isn't well insulated. Again, WTF???

This guy is like...he's like the good cop and the bad cop all rolled into one, and I so do not know how to handle it.

Date: 2005-09-23 05:46 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] brontosproximo.livejournal.com
Suggestion: Be sharp on Monday :)

Date: 2005-09-23 05:57 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] badseed1980.livejournal.com
Well, yeah. It's not like I wasn't trying before...

Date: 2005-09-23 05:48 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] woodwardiocom.livejournal.com
-Keeping people confused and nervous is a standard management tactic. Good luck . . .

Date: 2005-09-23 05:54 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] autumnsshadow.livejournal.com
sucks that he's so confusing. i guess it's good that he notices - though his comments make one wonder how long you're going to be "on the hook"...

Date: 2005-09-23 06:05 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] leenah.livejournal.com
i'd expect she'll be 'on the hook' until he catches another fish he'd rather play with. :(

Date: 2005-09-23 06:13 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] badseed1980.livejournal.com
I think you hit that nail right on the head, my dear!

Date: 2005-09-23 05:59 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] pierceheart.livejournal.com
I'm telling you: if'n you want me to go talk to "Rico" Ronnie about this guy, I c'n do that.

Date: 2005-09-23 06:12 pm (UTC)

Date: 2005-09-23 06:03 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lindalee.livejournal.com
OK, this is just weird.

Date: 2005-09-23 06:12 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] badseed1980.livejournal.com
Yeah, that's what I was thinking!

Cycle of abuse

Date: 2005-09-23 06:16 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dee-cee.livejournal.com
My old boss used to be like this. Leave me in tears by ripping me new ones, then give me great bonuses and pay raises. It's the cycle of an abuser: first the abuse, then the honeymoon (presents and such), then the buildup again.

Total power control games. Managers like that suck.

Re: Cycle of abuse

Date: 2005-09-23 06:26 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] badseed1980.livejournal.com
It's like he's saying, "You suck and you're stupid! Oh, that scared you! Now you're walking on eggshells and paranoid as fuck! Good! Now you can have a cookie!"

Re: Cycle of abuse

Date: 2005-09-23 06:39 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] pierceheart.livejournal.com
these ARE common (poor) management techniques.

someday, see if you find info on Hyman G. Rickover, and the sort of interviews he used to give, for people wanting to get into the Navy Nuclear submarine community.
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Re: Cycle of abuse

Date: 2005-09-23 06:48 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] badseed1980.livejournal.com
I agree with the "insulting". I always feel like a kid when he talks to me.

Yeah, resume will be finished and I will have sent it out to at least one place by the end of the month.

Date: 2005-09-23 06:56 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] deadwinter.livejournal.com
To echo others....yes, that is an abusive pattern. I wonder where the hell they learn that's ok? HBS?

Date: 2005-09-23 07:04 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] badseed1980.livejournal.com
I'm thinking it comes from his being an ER doctor: If it saves the patient's life, that's all that matters. Any mistake is potentially fatal, and therefore every mistake is hugely important.

Date: 2005-09-23 07:08 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] pierceheart.livejournal.com
That is EXACTLY the attitude I am afraid I sometimes show to the world, and you in particular.

And that comes from my family, and my job as a battle captain.

Date: 2005-09-23 07:11 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] badseed1980.livejournal.com
Babe, you are SO not like that. The worst you do is omit "please" after saying, "Hand me that widget over there."

Date: 2005-09-23 07:18 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] pierceheart.livejournal.com
Well, sometimes I am worse than not saying please, and you have pointed it out to me, the times I get worked up over the littlest things.

Date: 2005-09-23 07:22 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] badseed1980.livejournal.com
Ok, true, you do lose your temper easily. But it's not like you are using the good cop/bad cop thing he does. You don't try to keep me walking on eggshells.

Date: 2005-09-23 07:16 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] quepid.livejournal.com
Is he a gemini? or just schizophrenic.

Date: 2005-09-23 07:21 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] badseed1980.livejournal.com
A Taurus. And...just weird.

Date: 2005-09-23 07:24 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] quepid.livejournal.com
So what are you gonna stuff your new thermos with?

Date: 2005-09-23 07:31 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] badseed1980.livejournal.com
Coffee! Coffeecoffeecoffee! To keep my energy up at work, in spite of an overwhelming lack of any motivation other than fear!

Date: 2005-09-23 07:38 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] quepid.livejournal.com
Awwwwwwww *hugs*

He sounds like a quite unlikeable asshole.

Wonder if he may have a crush on you, some strange people think that that kinda thing is flirting. Sorta like pulling the little girls pigtails in school being some warped type of courtship.

Date: 2005-09-23 07:50 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] badseed1980.livejournal.com
No, definitely not, he's like this to some extent with everybody. I would think, if I didn't know him to have a very sweet wife and two daughters, that he was completely asexual.

Date: 2005-09-24 06:54 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] ex-lark-asc.livejournal.com
Start looking for a new job, now, nd do him for harrassment. You can't motivate your staff by threats and manipulation, it's criminal..
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