Borrowed from a couple peoples

[badseed1980]

How can I tell if you are angry?
--If I'm angry, I'll probably vent about it on LJ to get it out, then confront the person with whom I'm angry once it's out of my system..

How should I behave around you if you're angry?
--Ask me what's wrong. Chances are if I'm angry, it's because I feel hurt, slighted, ignored, or betrayed underneath it, and I will probably need to tell you what's going on and work it out and get some comfort. Don't get pissed off at me for BEING angry.

How do you want me to behave when you are hurting emotionally? (How is it best to comfort you?)
--I need hugs. I need to be held. If I'm feeling hurt by a lover, I need to be reassured (by him) that he loves me. DON'T get pissed off or frustrated with me for being hurt. Don't try to fix it all by telling me rational reasonable things, or by trying to give me perspective on the situation. Listen to me instead.

Are there things we should not discuss?
--Very few. Those things that are on the no-touch list are there because of the need to honor certain boundaries, not because of discomfort.

How should I treat you if you are physically ill?
--Offer me meds if you have them and I don't. I'm not shy about using medication to alleviate my symptoms. Make me tea. Help me out with tasks I have to do, or at least offer. Do NOT keep asking me if I'm all right, or make suggestions as to what might be wrong with me, unless you're a medical professional. Don't worry aloud that it might be something serious unless you have a really good reason to believe it might be. Hypochondriacs irritate the fuck out of me.

What makes you happy, that's in my power to grant as a friend?
--Contact me directly in any way. Not many people e-mail me just to chat. Even fewer call me, or ask to get together with me. This has led to ME being afraid to contact other people directly like that. I don't like that. I like the idea of spontaneous, one-on-one chats with people. And if you're a good friend of mine who feels the same way, let me know! We will chat more!

How would you like me to recognize your birthday?
--Be there for it, whatever I might be doing: party, dinner, anything. Nothing makes me happier than seeing the people I care about show up to celebrate the day with me. And if you're someone I'm dating, a birthday spanking is always appreciated. :P

Are there any standing categories of presents that would be appropriate or unwelcome?
--You can hardly go wrong buying me pretty yarn. I can always find SOMETHING to do with it. If you know we have the same kinds of tastes in books, movies, CDs, etc., buy me one you like that I haven't read seen, or heard before that you think I'll like. The only unwelcome presents are things that are so generic as to be utterly meaningless. I'd rather just get a card with something thoughtful written on it than a gift certificate to a generic-type store like Borders or something. Gift certificats to specialty stores that are specific to my interests are fine though.

Are there times of the year that are difficult for you? Please explain if you are comfortable.
--Not really any particular time of year.

Are there important anniversaries that I should recognize in your life?
--My birthday, and if you're pierceheart, OUR anniversary.

Who are the most important people in your life to whom I should defer when making plans on your behalf?
--pierceheart, absolutely. He knows when I'm busy and what I like.

Comments

[badseed1980.livejournal.com]

Well, I DO like 'em, actually! Yummy yams! But if I were to receive one as a gift, I'd be a little worried about the person giving it to me. :P

[leenah.livejournal.com]

hee hee!! i learned something!

:) you are welcome to contact me anytime. if i'm busy, i'll let you know. doesn't ever mean i don't want to see or hear from you. if it ever WERE to mean that, i'd tell you.

gonna post mine soon. i wasted a small chunk of the afternoon answering it.

[badseed1980.livejournal.com]

Sweet :)

So if a night comes along where I'm sitting on my ass and knitting for lack of anything better to do, I'll know you're someone I could call to invite over!

[leenah.livejournal.com]

yup. i like to be spontaneous. :) i love hanging w/ my friends. just being companionably silent is nice to do with a friend.

i might hafta say no due to the craptastic commute to get outta the heights, but that's MY problem. never assume i'm not interested in seeing you. :)