A bit bummed

[badseed1980]

You know, I never talk on the phone.

I call or am called by my mom on the weekends to chat. pierceheart calls me to tell me he's on his way home. That's it. I use maybe an hour's worth of cell phone minutes a month. I never hear from anyone just to chat, or get an invitation from them to call just to chat. I would like people to know that they should feel free to call me whenever they like, just to chat, and if I can't talk I'll let you know when I can.

I also haven't socialized in person with people outside of a particular group in months, with the exception of one or two nights.

I'm starting to feel alienated and disconnected from a lot of my friends. It's really bumming me out. I crave conversation, fun, gossip, silliness.

I would really like to get out and see you all, or talk to you, or SOMETHING. Maybe after my damn recital is over, I'll be able to do that. And no, knittingkumquat, I realize now that I WON'T be able to make it to your impromptu craft night--I will be too busy ironing stuff, painting my nails, and getting ready for my recital the next day. Sorry. I really, really, really would have liked to do that. :(

I need a party or something.

And I feel bad that I forgot to wish geoogo a happy birthday. I hope it was a good one.

Comments

[lothiriel-1.livejournal.com]

Do you have my e-mail? Send me your phone number, I'd love to have another person to gab with!

[badseed1980.livejournal.com]

I don't know if I have your e-mail, but do you have one through LJ?

[lothiriel-1.livejournal.com]

I don't, but it just occurred to me that I might have your e-mail address at home. If I do, I'll send you my phone number. If not, I'll post a private message here on LJ for you.

[badseed1980.livejournal.com]

Word. :) I'd love to chat about the upcoming Stones with you!

I can relate.

[bittercat.livejournal.com]

For one thing, I have just become less of a phone person. Most of my communication these days is via email/online or face to face. I just...don't like being tied to a phone (literally and figuratively.) I also am still on prepaid, so my cell phone is now more a tool than anything else. My home phone almost never rings, and I use it only to call to make plans or touch base, as I do with my cell. I just do not like having phone conversations any more, when I can jump on AIM or Yahoo! Messenger or go see the person. It's...odd.

For another, when I'm at home, as in in my house, I'm usually too busy tos it on the phone and gab. I'm still unpacking, and I'm always cleaning and decluttering and planning spaces. (I have some big changes coming up in my life, and I have to prepare the house.)

I'm sure it's nothing personal. I'm sorry you're feeling disconnected. I understand that, because I'm going through that too, but in my case, it's G's death that has caused me to pull back and really re-evaluate a lot of my friendships. There are a number of people in my life who I now realize are not healthy people for me to be close with, and I'm distancing myself from those people and trying to make new connections.

We're here for you! Feel free to drop me a line or a note any time! I think you have my digits somewhere. If not, let me know, and I'll email you.

*big hugs*

Re: I can relate.

[badseed1980.livejournal.com]

*hugs back*

I think it's partly the fact that I'm busy, and partly the fact that I jump at any chance to do something special with my boy, since 90% of the time we spend together is either crashing after work at my place or his, or fulfilling obligations which, while pleasant, aren't "couple time". But I AM still here, and I AM happy to do stuff. :)

I also have gotten the feeling that everyone else is so busy that I can't really ask them to do anything. Lately, it's been the same two or three people who are free whenever I suggest doing anything. Some of my good friends, I haven't seen since January! Oy. I should throw a party soon. I really should.

Re: I can relate.

[bittercat.livejournal.com]

;) We'll be up in Athol from the 27th to the 3rd! *hint, hint* :p

Yeah, schedules are nuts, starting in April, usually. The warmer months are busy, busy, busy for people, especially Pagans.

D and I do a whole lot of nesting, too. We are together every day, just about, and most times we are content to just hang out at my place or his place. People are always welcome to drop by, but we are really enjoying our time together. That's normal.

*more hugs*

Re: I can relate.

[badseed1980.livejournal.com]

What, May 27th to June 3rd? Awesome!!!!! :D

Re: I can relate.

[bittercat.livejournal.com]

Yyyyyyyyyyyup!!!!! It's about an hour from you, I believe, but I'm sure we can work something out. :) :) :)

[witchyspyce.livejournal.com]

PIRATES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sorry you are blue hon :(

I'll be taking the summer off of school so we'll have to do girlie nights.

[badseed1980.livejournal.com]

W00t! I will especially need the chance to hang out with people this summer, since pierceheart will be gone for about half of it, and I will go stir-crazy if I don't get out. :)

Yes, we should go see Pirates together! Are you planning on going opening day?

[woodwardiocom.livejournal.com]

On reflection, I suspect there's a cultural shift going on here, where A) we all have cell phones instead of land-lines, and B) cell phones (as yet) don't sound as good as real phones, so C) we don't enjoy curling up and chatting on them as much.

[badseed1980.livejournal.com]

I think it's also the fact that most people tend to either a) see each other often enough, or b) talk more by e-mail. Most people are at computers all day anyway, so it's easier to keep in touch that way.

[wench33.livejournal.com]

I'm thinking of throwing a "men without pants" party in June :)

and usually one or two nights a week I'm in Davis grabbing a dog at Spikes with Todd or Steve you'd totally be welcome to join us.

[badseed1980.livejournal.com]

Oooh! My pantsless man might not be around when your party happens, but hey, looking at other pantsless men is fun too. And let me know when you're hitting Spikes. Tofu dogs make me a happy Laura.

[wench33.livejournal.com]

Thursday night after the husband gets back from biking(around 9?) I plan to hit spikes :)

[badseed1980.livejournal.com]

Hmm. Nine's a bit late for dinner for me, alas. Even if I'm out doing laundry, I'm usually home by then. Meh.

[wench33.livejournal.com]

We could do earlier, but I'd have to bring the kiddo.

Sometimes I go Tuesdays too, but tonight the husband doesn't have a game, so I'm cooking dinner.

[autumnsshadow.livejournal.com]

i know what you mean - now if only i had the motivation to do anything about it...hrmph...

[roaming.livejournal.com]

I never talk on the phone either.* But then again, I never call anyone just to chat, say hi, I'm thinking of you. I mean to. . . and then it's dinner time, or chore time, or what have you, and then it's too late to call on a work night. I know, lousy excuses all.

It's weird, though, that I've (we've?) gotten sooo used to typing things on the computer that we don't do voice. A friend did call me last month to just chat, and it felt. . . like talking to a stranger. There's my sign!

*(well, my best friend calls me all the time when she's stuck in traffic. And my 85 year old aunt in Florida. And my mom's best friend calls to check up on me now that I'm "motherless.")

[badseed1980.livejournal.com]

Well, I'm glad you enjoyed it, anyway! HAPPY BIRTHDAY! *hugs*

[miss-lisa-ma.livejournal.com]

I think the not-talking-in-the-phone-as-much thing is spreading, although for a variety of reasons. You have yours, I have mine, other friends have theirs, but not one of us doesn't want to be in touch with people who matter. (Me, I'm looking forward to not ping-ponging between migraine madness and sucky side-effects, so I can not just talk to people but be with them more often.) But I can totally understand the "disconnected" part. It's not fun, no matter how it happens.

For assorted sillineness: I think there's another zombie march in July. I live a short walk from the beach, if you like beach and fried clams :-). And there's always midnight Buffy at the Coolidge (when I'm a big girl and can stay up late, I'd be happy to go).

[j4yx0r.livejournal.com]

If you can wait a few weeks, I can absolutely promise some fun, exciting, abnormal diversion! I can't wait!

~j

[badseed1980.livejournal.com]

Yes indeedy! I am very much looking forward to it! :D